I was 40 years old when I had my first child

I was 40 years old when I had my first child

I was 40 years old when I had my first child. Luckily for us, breastfeeding was a breeze right from the start, she latched on like a champ every single time, I had no pain, and we both really enjoyed it!

A few weeks in we started having problems with her refusing feeds, crying and fussing and throwing up a lot after feeds. Lots of to-ing and fro-ing to the pediatrician’s office finally resulted in a double diagnosis: reflux and a cow’s milk protein allergy. I tried to continue breastfeeding through all the drama, but it was just easier to put her on an elemental formula with reflux meds as this settled her immediately and she seemed to thrive on it. So I only breastfed her exclusively for the first 6 weeks of her life, then on and off combined with formula for about another 3 weeks, and then she went onto formula exclusively from there on.

These decisions were made after weeks of really struggling with the reflux and allergy, and lots of sleep deprivation, and I think I went for the easy option by putting her on formula feeds only – something I now regret bitterly. She is 17 months old now and I dearly wish that I was still breastfeeding her. She is healthy and happy and thriving, so perhaps my regret is for slightly selfish reasons – I would really have enjoyed breastfeeding her for longer.

So my tale of caution is to tell other struggling moms: just hang in there! Don’t give up breastfeeding at the first sign of trouble, you will regret it later.

Remember, it will get easier and it is worth it!

-Hanlie Walker

Hanlie, a writer/editor, and her husband live in South Africa with their daughter, Charlotte.
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Corinne is a part time hairstylist and a full time wife and mom from Pennsylvania. When she’s not at work or chasing after her wild-child, she’s busy tackling her latest craft or sewing project. She loves inspiring people to tap into their right-brain creativity. You can check out her girls’ clothing at CeceLynn Design.

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    Anastasia @ eco-babyz


    Good for you to at least having breastfed as long as you could! Same story here, cow’s milk protein allergy when my first was born. Thank goodness we went for a second opinion because the first hospital wanted to operate and thought there was intestine obstruction. I pumped and dumped for 5 days, while she was on that super expensive formula, I completely went off ALL dairy for an entire year and continued breastfeeding for 24 months, she was happy and thriving, chubby and healthy without me on dairy. We slowly introduced cheese and yogurt into my diet when she was about a year and she did well. She started eating some dairy at 2 years old, but no cow’s milk. I know my story could have turned out different, I wouldn’t be able to have done this without my husband’s support! So to any other mom’s reading, hang in there, it IS worth it and doable no matter what the struggle.


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