Creating a Mom’s Group
Being a part of a mom’s group is an excellent way for children to begin friendships-learning skills and building their self esteem, as well as yours! In those early months of being a new mom, being a member of any group may just be exactly what you need. Not only is it a great way to have your child interact with other children, but it allows you to get out and interact with other adults. What should you do if no one you know holds one? Read on to find how you (yes, you!) can create your very own successful mom’s group that everyone will enjoy.
First things first
Before you begin asking other moms to join your group, you need to figure out the logistics of how it’s all going to go down. You also must decide what you want this to be for YOU. If you want to keep it low key and casual you may skip some of the points provided. If you want to be super committed to maintaining your moms group then there are a number of things for you to consider before taking any action.
Where will the weekly meeting take place? You have a few different options here. You could possibly meet in a park, a church hall, your home, or a gym, but keep in mind if you do it in a hall or gym, you may be charged. You want to keep the cost of having a weekly mom’s group as low as possible so that everyone can participate without a financial burden. Hosting within your own home is probably the most cost efficient way of doing this, but you have to remember that if anyone were to get hurt or injured, you may be held liable. You could also consider having different members host ta their own place in a rotating cycle.
You need to decide which day of the week is best for everyone, keeping in mind that some moms only have maternity leave for 6 weeks. In that case, perhaps weekends will better suit your members. Next you need to decide how long each session will be. Usually they will run anywhere between 1 to 3 hours long. You will also need to think about how long you would like to run the mom’s group for. It could be a 2-3 month commitment or, if you want to be in for the long haul try a year and go from there.
Like anything, rules should be set in place to ensure everyone will be safe and having fun. Here are some guidelines to follow:
- Toys- “I have purchased some toys specifically for our mom’s group that are for all of the children to share and enjoy. After each of our weekly meetings, I will clean and sterilize them for the following week. If you have any other toys you would like to donate or contribute to our group please let me know.”
- Fees- “If we all agree on a specific outing or adventure i.e the zoo, or the aquarium, all costs will be split evenly between members attending. All members will be responsible for providing food and snacks for themselves and their child on those days.”
- Safety- “Each member is responsible for her own child at all times during our meetings whether we are in or out of the home. If any member is displaying any type of inappropriate behavior, i.e speaking in a discriminatory, hateful or offensive way, you may be dismissed from the group. We want to keep this group safe and positive for all involved.”
- Photos-“We all must agree about photos of our children (from the group) being posted on social media sites. If we do not ALL agree that they may be posted, than we will apply the ‘no photos’ rule”.
- Language- “All members must use nonjudgemental and supportive language towards one another.”
These are just some example of the “rules” you can set in place. Sometimes things like this need guidance, limitations and, yes, even rules.
You will need to create some sort of private group for only yourself and other members so you can all openly discuss anything and everything. It’s a good spot to make plans, discuss upcoming outings and events, tell the host if you will or will not be making it, and discuss any new ideas that may arise.
Now that you are all set up and have information to provide to people, it’s time to find new moms to attend the weekly gatherings. Free advertising is your best bet (if you want new moms that you don’t already know). Try posting an add on craigslist, and keep in mind that word of mouth is the best way to spread the news. You could also look into putting an ad in your local newspaper. Once you get a few moms interested, they usually know other moms who would want to attend as well. A great place to check out is Meetup, this is the worlds largest network of local groups. This website makes it super easy for you to organize a local group. You will also have to decide how many members you would like to have join, keeping in mind that you may lose up to 70% of them along the way.
You will need to come up with ideas about what kind of activities — if any — you would like to do with your mom’s group. Brainstorm and make a list of things your moms might be interested in. You could try visiting your city’s web page to find (perhaps free) activities for moms and children. These might include the following:
- Early stage music classes
- Mom and baby swimming
- Mom and baby fitness class
- Mom and baby dance class
- Baby signing class
- Baby massage
- Pot luck in the park
- Your local beach
- The Zoo
For a more in depth look into organizing and holding a mom’s group, read this book Creating the moms group you’ve been looking for
So, those are the basics to getting your mom’s group started. Once you have begun you’ll need to spend time maintaining it, updating members, and reminding moms!
Putting it all together
Since you will have your Facebook group, this is a great place to remind people (a couple of days before) that you are meeting that week. You can include who, what, when, where, why, and how so everyone can see it in one place.
You should set a specific day and time (that works well with the other moms) and keep it that way for every week so that it is consistent.
You might also want to consider or talk about food and treats if you are hosting in your own home. Moms love healthy (or not healthy) snacks. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy or fancy. Try some of the following:
- Making a jug of lemonade or iced tea
- Cheese and Crackers
- Pot Luck
If you follow these guidelines, we can assure that you will be a part of or create a successful mom’s group that everyone will love and cherish. We know many moms who have made the best of friends with other mothers they didn’t know before they joined a group.
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Lauren is a new mom living in Toronto, Canada. When she is not at home being a mom, she is working full time as a model, playing competitive baseball, and working on her personal blog. In her “spare” time, Lauren is aspiring to become a childbirth educator. You can find her at Lauren Hardy Blog