How many children to have is a very personal decision. Some couples immediately know they want a few kids, while others know they’re done after just one. In recent years, having an only child is becoming more and more common. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, families with just one child have nearly doubled since the 1960s. In fact, 1 in 5 American families have just one child. But, only children often get a bad rap. These myths about only children — and their parents — are completely untrue.
4 Common Myths
1. Only children are lonely.
Yes, it’s true that only children spend more time alone than children with siblings. But, being alone doesn’t automatically equal loneliness. In fact, studies have shown that spending time alone strengthens character and only children often know themselves better as a result. What’s more, only children have just as many friends as children with siblings do. So, all that alone time does not have a negative impact on the only child’s ability to make friends.
2. Only children are selfish.
Several in-depth studies have been done on only children over the course of the past twenty years and research overwhelmingly agrees that only children do not exhibit more negative personality traits than kids with with siblings. Only children are not any more selfish than any other child.
3. Only children are spoiled.
Many people think that because there is only one child, that child is going to get anything and everything he or she wants all the time. This simply isn’t true though. Any child can be spoiled and overindulged — only child or not. It’s all about the parenting, experts say, not the number of children in a family.
4. Parents of only children are selfish.
Parents of only children are often on the receiving end of criticism and scrutiny too. People may think parents of only children are selfish for only wanting one child and what they perceive to be an “easy” life. Sometimes people assume the marriage isn’t a happy one or that there are infertility issues. What people need to know is that having an only child is a valid family choice. Happier parents mean a happier family overall–regardless of the number of children within the family.
Benefits of Having an Only Child
Not surprisingly there are plenty of benefits to having just one child. Parents with one child have more resources to devote to that child. This includes time, money, and energy. As a result of greater parental resources, only children thrive. They often have higher intelligence and higher achievement rates than their counterparts with siblings, which may lead to only children contributing more to society than kids with siblings. Only children often have higher self esteem than kids with siblings.
Only you and your partner can decide how many children is the right number for your family. The good news is that there’s no right or wrong answer. One might very well be the best number for your family!
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