Science proves that there are clear habits for success, by measuring two people groups: the rich and the poor. Seems pretty black and white, cutting people into two categories like that, right? No. There are more words to fill in the shades of gray, but for purposes of this article, let’s use these terms. Although some of us would not openly admit we want our children to be Richey Rich, none of us want our children to be poor; materially paupers, spiritually bankrupt, physically drained, or mentally wrung out. None of us. We want abundance for our kids. We want fewer struggles and more freedom. Read on for a simple recipe of overarching keys and supporting habits that will change your approach to raising successful children.
It is so easy to get sucked into the vacuum of every day, knee-jerk living and not be intentional about what we set out to do when our feet hit the floor every day. If your children are small, you might be in a season of feeling lucky to even get a firm grip on the ever-climbing pile of laundry and diapers. Perhaps you are just trying to keep all of the plates spinning and show up to work without peanut butter and jelly smears, or boogers, or worse on your sweater. Maybe you are so busy being Mom’s Taxi Service, getting all of the children to practice and lessons, that you get overwhelmed thinking about a new item on your ever-growing to-do list. Don’t give up now.
There are a few keys to this process that are overarching and four very specific areas to divide and conquer.
KEY ONE: LIVE ON PURPOSE
Success happens as a result of daily, systematic actions you execute intentionally.
In other words, success is habitual. The mindset of intentionality is easy, and only requires that we teach our children to give away the right to be a victim; to live as if everything is luck – good or bad. Teaching our children how to live with intention is as easy as regularly reminding them that they are powerful and amazing creatures; living on purpose, with a big purpose!
A few staggering examples of purposeful living:
- 74% of wealthy teach good daily success habits to their children versus 1% of poor.
- 84% of wealthy believe good habits create opportunity versus 4% of poor. Conversely, 76% of wealthy believe bad habits create detriment versus 9% of poor.
Good news! As their parents, we get to sway their success in this world. Do you want your child to grow up with habits that guarantee success? Teach your child that nothing is happenstance.
Try starting your child’s day by sharing this one simple thought: Today, I can improve my life by….
- For toddlers, it might sound more like, “Yay! We are going to make today GREAT!”
- For littles, this thought can be shared by asking, “What are you going to do today, to make school more awesome?”
- For tweens or teens, you might teach the 1% rule.
KEY TWO: BE A GOAL DIGGER
Success happens as a result of knowing your destination, so you can set an actionable path to get there!
Cruise ships do not set sail without a final destination. It is, apart from miracles, impossible to end up exactly where you want without a very clear idea where you are going, and the directions you need to take in order to arrive there. Start simply by spending a lot of time with your child daydreaming and determining with them what success looks like; what is “rich” to your child? Listen what their hearts churn out during their play time. Watch closely and loudly praise what they are great at; their passions are quietly sitting in a corner close by, just waiting to come out to wow you! You do not have to map your child’s life out for them, but show them how they can have the life they dream of, by setting some small goals with them, and celebrate when they achieve them.
- 80% of wealthy are focused on accomplishing some single goal. Only 12% of the poor do this.
- 81% of wealthy maintain a to-do list versus 19% of poor.
- 67% of wealthy write down their goals versus 17% of poor.
There are good and bad habits, both are formed with equal ease, so watch with close attention for both. To further simplify the process, here are four areas with a few tried and true practices to kick things off:
Mental Habits – To develop and exercise our minds
- Turn the TV off and turn your mind on
- Read 30 minutes a day
- Write a page a day, whether a poem or prospectus
- Teach your children about money
Physical Habits – To maximize the strength of our bodies
- Make at least 30 minutes a day to make use of your strength
- Fuel your body with healthy foods
- Wake up early and maximize your “launch time”
Spiritual Habits – To magnify our soul’s being
- Practice meditation and “being still”
- Accept and give forgiveness
- Spend time with your Creator
Emotional Habits – To keep our hearts balanced
- Communicate openly
- Be kind to yourself and others
- Practice gratitude and thankfulness
The longevity and success of your habits will be driven by your values and beliefs, so take some time with your child, developing the skill set of setting goals and making them stick for 30 days. Make them personal and develop them over time. Refresh these goals and supporting habits with your child as they age into new seasons of their lives. Celebrate their victories, and propel them into greatness. Any time is a good time to start a good habit!
Source: Thomas C, Corley, http://richhabits.net/will-your-child-be-rich-or-poor/