Beyond the Baby Soap: Big Girl Skin and Hair Tips

If you have a budding tween girl in your house, you’ve probably wondered when is the right time to start talking to them about personal hygiene and teaching them how to properly take care of their skin and hair. We know as moms that we probably did things to our skin and hair at one time or another that we now wish we didn’t (think: tanning all day by the pool!). Knowing what we know now, you can use these experiences to show your daughter how important it is to learn the right, and wrong, way to treat your skin and hair. 

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A child between 10 and 12 years of age, considered too old to be a child but too young to be a teenager.

As most of us remember, the tween and teen years can be difficult ones for many reasons. Body changes, self-esteem issues and new hormones can cause kids to feel irrational and all over the place. Kids even before the age of 10 can go through emotional ups and downs every day, depending on their mood, their friends’ moods or even what was served for breakfast that morning. Most kids, but girls especially, really begin to pay attention to what other people think during this stage and really start to care about how they look, what they are wearing and what everyone else is doing. The tween years are a transitional period for kids, with hormonal changes causing not only mood swings, but also bumps and blemishes. One single zit can really play a major role in their self esteem, but by starting a simple skin and hair regimen around the age 9, your daughter is more likely to have a great complexion (and also great self-esteem) for the rest of her life.

Skin


  • Create a simple skin care regiment with your daughter. Teach them the importance of washing their face in the morning and in the evening. Remember, at this age, keep it SIMPLE. Many moms like to have 200 products they use every day- our daughters don’t need that. A simple face wash or face wash cleansing towelettes are a great way to keep their faces clean and oil free. Remind them not to scrub too hard either.
  • Follow their face washing with showing them how to apply a light moisturizer once a day. Finding one with a low spf is even better! Show them that they only need to apply a very small amount and how to rub it in completely.
  • Speaking of SPF, teach them the importance of applying SPF everyday! Depending on where you live and what your day to day activities are, you will need to apply different amounts, but if you start by teaching your daughter the importance of protecting your skin from the sun, hopefully those lessons will stick with her as she grows so she can help to keep that young, beautiful skin her whole life!
  • If you have a sports player, encourage her to wash her face as soon as she can after her practice or games, this will help prevent that sweaty oil from causing future breakouts.
  • Help them choose the most natural and oil free products as they can when it comes to their skin. Remind them that everything they apply to the outside of their skin, soaks into your skin, and you want to choose the least toxic products as you can. 

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  • Buy them their own products, just for them. This will help to encourage them to stick to their routine and give them that “big girl” feeling they so desperately want.
  • When your daughter starts showing signs of puberty and exhibits any tell tale signs of zits forming, be proactive about it. Begin with a topical cream or washes. Remember to choose the most natural kinds. If they start to develop major acne, your pediatrician may be able to help you choose a more intense regiment for them. Research has shown that a common ingredient in acne skin treatments, benzoyl peroxide, can be too harsh for a younger child’s skin, so if you have a child with sensitive skin, you may want to avoid this ingredient and choose one that has salicylic acid instead.
  • For their body, the same rules apply. Choose products that are as natural as possible. Encourage your daughter to use a body wash with a puff in the shower or some bar soap if they find that easier. Applying a simple lotion afterwards, will help your daughter to have soft skin and allow them to build habits that will benefit them as they grow.

Product Recommendation

When you are looking for products for your kids, the “least toxic as possible” rule always applies. Remember that tween skin and grown up skin are two very different animals, if you will. What’s good for the goose may not be good for the gander. Read the labels of the products you are considering buying and check them in the Envirnomantal Working Group’s Skin Deep Database to see what hidden toxins may be lurking in that face wash or cream. Some products we found that ranked really well and that are available at most local stores are Burt’s Bees Sensitive Facial Cleansing TowelettesYes To Carrots Daily Facial Moisturizer and Alba Botanica Drink-it Up Coconut Shampoo and Conditioner. Many products from these three brands ranked very well and are paraben-free, full of antioxidants and good for your skin and hair!

For body, we are in love with the Be Delectable line from Cake Beauty. The have several products including body lotions and polishes, hand lotions, body washes and mists that come in four deletable scents: strawberries and cream, lemon and cream, vanilla and cream and coconut and cream. These scents smell incredible too! They literally smell like cake! They are perfect for young girls (and mom, too!).

All of these products are free of parabens, phthalates, GMOs, mineral oil, gluten and triclosan. They are all natural and work amazingly to leave your skin so soft, moisturized and smelling amazing. With delicious scents, cute packaging and some of the best ingredients on the market, the Be Delectable line is the perfect lotion and body wash line for your big girl who is ready to move beyond the baby soap and lotion.

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Be Delectable | Body Lotion | Body Wash | Hand Cream

Hair


  • Shampooing is an important part of hair care, but the frequency of shampooing will depend on many factors like your child’s hair type and activity level. If your tween has oily hair she may have to shampoo every day, while girls with dry hair might only need to shampoo twice a week. If your child is active in sports, that will also dictate how often your child should shampoo. Also remind them to rinse it all the way out, as to not leave a bunch of residue in their hair after their shower.

  • After shampooing, have your daughter condition her hair. Not only will this help keep their hair soft and more manageable, it will help less those dreaded tangles. 
  • Try and limit the amount of heat sources that come in contact with their hair. Obviously this will get harder as they get older, but when they are young, you can help to show them the importance of limiting these so their hair can stay bouncy and full of life, instead of dull and dry.
  • Take your daughter for regular hair trims. When she’s at an appropriate age, allow her to have some say on her hair cut style. Look online for styles and consider upkeep time and costs, too. Allowing her to help choose her hair style will help empower her to want to take care of it.
  • Make sure your daughter has her own brushes and combs and that she is brushing her hair everyday. A good spray leave-in conditioner or detangling spray can help make tangles easier to brush out. If morning tangles are especially problematic, putting your daughter’s hair in a loose ponytail or braid when she sleeps can help minimize this.
  • Encourage your daughter to love the kind of hair they were born with! We all know that as adults many of us have struggled with hair types or colors or styles that we have wanted to change, which is ok, but remember to fill your daughter with positive thoughts about their hair to help ensure they have positive self-esteem about themselves. As a girl, your hair can really be a major factor when it comes to how you look and feel, so teaching them how to take care of their own hair is extremely important.
  • Have a picky eater, but budding beauty queen on your hands? Remind her that healthy skin and hair comes from within. Eating a healthy and balanced diet plays a huge role in how our skin and hair look. Food such as berries, whole grains, spinach, tomatoes, nuts, yogurt and sweet potatoes are among the best for your skin and hair and are an essential part of any diet!

When you have a growing daughter, it is so important to begin to teach them the right away to take care of their skin and hair. Do some research on products and have your child shop with you, this way, they will feel involved in the decisions and will feel that their opinion is important and you can help to build these habits early. We all want our daughters to feel beautiful inside and out, and as young girls grow, they place a major amount of time and energy into worrying about what other people think about them – and while we may wish they didn’t, it happens anyway. If you start young and teach your child simple ways to keep their skin and hair looking beautiful naturally as they grow they will continue these habits and hopefully have a positive view about themselves, that they will carry on for their entire lives.

Looking for more information on tweens? Check out our recent article on
What Your Tween Wants You to Know!

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Michelle

Michelle; full time mama, part time blogger, wife extraordinaire. This busy mama to three “peas” is a lover of all things running, crafting and baking. A New England native and current desert dweller, she is the brains and wit behind the blog Our Three Peas, where she writes about the hilarious reality that is motherhood. She strives to live a green and natural life and swears that most motherhood-related dramas can be solved by having a nice glass of wine at the end of the evening.

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    Goldi

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    She’s so adorable!! She looks just like you 🙂 Ok, is it bad that I want to try Be Delectable? lol I also want the Burts Bees face wipes! I love all natural products. Are these good for tween boys, too, or is this just girl stuff?

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      Michelle

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      Thank you! And, no it’s not bad that you want to try Be Delectable because I have been borrowing my daughters since she got it because it smells THAT great! I think the wipes would be fine for a boy! They have a very light scent. Thank you for stopping by!

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    Caitlyn Gamache

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    I love all natural products too. Due to this article I was able to make an excellent gift for my little girl.

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    Sallie

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    Any advice on how to teach a young girl to wash her hair? My daughter is 5 1/2 with long, thick hair. Not sure when and how to let her take over shampoo and conditioner.

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