Growing up we always heard adults say, “it’s all about respect,” when addressing relationships between children, teens, and young adults with teachers, pastors, police, and parents. But that is not altogether accurate. It is not “all about respect” and it is most certainly not just about respect. Relationships on both a personal and public level are built not only on respect, but on trust, understanding and the consistency of fulfilled expectations. As a firm believer that respect is something which must be earned, when it comes to these other characteristics they are the building blocks of a respectful relationship, thus inherently must come first.
Posts Tagged ‘compassion’
We all want to raise our children to be good people with strong character, and in a recent national parent survey, an overwhelming majority believe that in today’s social media-focused world, nurturing positive character traits in children is more important than it used to be. Compassion, Honesty, Generosity – How Soon Should Parents Start Helping Their Kids Develop These Traits? Believe it or not, nearly half of parents surveyed think that preschool age is too young to begin learning social-emotional skills, skills like how to be generous, getting along with others, and compassion. So, how soon should you start… the answer may surprise you.
Parents have a rough job. Not only do they have to keep their kids healthy, fed, clothed, and sheltered they also have to teach them to be good people. If you have more than one child you know that often times some of your greatest tests of patience and use of parenting skills are used when your children are squabbling with one another.
A parent’s first instinct when they hear their children arguing in another room is to run in and help resolve the issue. However, research shows that allowing your children time and space to work out their own compromise is beneficial in many different ways as long as they have been taught the skills. Parents need to play both an active and passive role when it comes to disagreements between siblings – help them work through issues and show conflict resolution, but then step back and let them do it themselves once they have the knowledge base.
‘Tis the season when we’re all searching for ways to involve our children in giving back to the community. Christmas is, after all, the perfect time to start meaningful family traditions that reflect the desire to embody gratitude for our blessings while at the same time showing empathy for others.
There are Angel Trees, where you can choose an “ornament” from the tree that names a specific item that a child in your local area might need or want for Christmas that otherwise they wouldn’t receive. There are food pantries and soup kitchens who need volunteers to stock shelves and assist with serving or delivering food to hungry families. There are families that churches or schools may “adopt” for the holiday season and assist with making sure they can feed their families as well as enjoy gifts. And there are homeless shelters who desperately need blankets and coats to give to folks who cannot afford to stay warm during the winter months.
Do you have a hard time getting your boys into books? We put together a list of new and old classics that your older elementary aged boys will surely enjoy.