Should I breastfeed or bottle feed? Swaddle or co-sleep? Read to them every night or just hold them close? Never yell or keep my frustrations to myself? Gee, that’s a lot of questions to ask oneself! “Perfection” in terms of motherhood pretty much alludes to the best of us no matter how hard we try. And yet, we keep apologizing for our shortcomings that seem undoubtedly, normal. So, I stopped being the ‘perfect” mom; and just became, Mom.
Posts Tagged ‘coping’
Days, weeks, and months went by, but these feelings… the feelings of mistrust, betrayal, depression, stress, and fear, and still having to hold it all together while being a “good” mother, seemed impossible. The marriage was fine, everything was good. There were no hang ups, major fights, or even un-attraction issues, and yet it still happened. It happened, and even though life continued on, there was this standstill. No movement forward nor backward. Nothing but the betrayal, the affair – it was the existence of the marriage: The Affair. Life still moved forward, mothering had to be done, so just keep it together, right?
Two words: Bubble Wrap. In today’s media-saturated in-your-face world, most of us would probably love to wrap our little ones in bubble wrap — protecting their bodies from all harm, their hearts from all the ugliness the world sometimes has to offer, and their minds from all thoughts of inadequacies or messages of you’re just not _____ enough (fill in the blank) that can be found lurking around every corner of society.
Unfortunately, we can’t wrap our children in bubble wrap (though we’re sure they would be willing participants), but we can set them up with the right tools to face adversities and be able to bounce right back and push on through when life — people, school, careers, love — gets tough and the stress of it all becomes too much.
Contractions are perhaps the hardest thing to deal with during labor, and all of them are different, but we want to help you get through labor one contraction at a time. If you have been following our natural childbirth series, you will have already read our post Natural Childbirth: Your In-Hospital Options and Benefits of Natural Childbirth. We want to take this to the next level and give you a little bit of information on how to deal with those painful contractions. Remember, when we are speaking about natural childbirth we are referring to a birth where no pain relief via drugs are administered. Read on to find out how to cope with your contractions.
Why did this happen? These are usually the first thoughts of a woman being given the news about one of the most horrible situations that one could possibly go through during pregnancy. The first thought goes to what you could have done differently. Your mind races about what could have been and what never will be for THIS baby. Whether it is your first or fourth, it will never be easy. It will never be the same. We are here to try and help you through this process of grieving and give you some ways to try and cope after your miscarriage.