Grieving is a challenging process. One of the many difficulties in the grieving process is the fear of forgetting a loved one. As a parent, this fear may be intensified because you may worry that your child will forget the precious few memories your child had with a loved one. Alternatively, you may grieve that your loved one never met your child. Reconciling the past and present has its obstacles, but as stated by Allison Gilbert, “[w]e can all live our fullest lives when we accept that absence and presence can coexist.” Here are some ways to remember and celebrate your loved one with your child.
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Do you remember where you were the moment you heard that a plane flew into one of the Twin Towers in New York City? Most of us cannot only remember where we were, but also the pure shock we felt when we saw the horrifying footage on television. It’s hard to believe that our country experienced the worst terror attack in history 16 years ago when it feels like just yesterday that we watched it all unfold with tears in our eyes and an indescribable fear that most have never experienced before.
Raise your hand if you love The Walking Dead! We are big fans here at Daily Mom. We’ve been watching for years. For many of us, our love for The Walking Dead began before our children were even born. What makes this show so excellent isn’t the gross zombies and special effects, it is the character development. We learn lessons right along with the characters. As they change, we change and we take away new things to think about after every episode. They might be surviving a zombie apocalypse but we are surviving parenthood and some days, that feels like the same thing. Spoiler Alert! If you aren’t caught up through Season 6, please don’t read this. With Season 7 premiering, we thought we would bring you 10 parenting lessons from The Walking Dead.
Parents strive to shield their children from painful situations. We want their childhoods filled with laughter, joy, and a sense of being carefree because we all know that one day the inevitable will happen – our children will see, experience, and feel the pain from tragedies. Many times these horrible situations will be far removed from our children. It will be something they hear about at school, see on television, or read about online. There are times, however, where our children experience the unfathomable. They may still be little or they may be adults, but as parents one thing never changes: we don’t want them to ever feel that pain.
Nonetheless the world is a scary and unforgiving place. It is our job as parents to do our best to teach our children how to cope with such horrific events such as the massacre in Orlando, and how to reach beyond the initial scope of pain and hate to one of empathy and love for those most affected.
Shortly after my first child was born, an online friend of mine lost her baby. She was 7 months old. There are no words to describe a loss like that. No words of comfort. No words of peace. There is just a void that is felt in your world – a gut wrenching emptiness that grasps the very core of your being and doesn’t ever let go. And those were just my feelings – for the loss of a child of a woman I barely knew. My heart ached for her. I cried for her. I weeped for her sweet baby. And then I weeped for my sweet baby as thoughts of “what ifs” played through my head over and over again in the days that followed.
Every year, when the holiday season rolls in you are left to try to figure out some awesome gift ideas. But, what happens when awesome just won’t cut it? If the person on your list is worthy of a gift to end all gifts then it’s an “Ultimate Gift” that you are looking for. Well, if that is the case you are in the right place. Ultimate gifts aren’t about price tags, but rather they are about choosing a gift that will be treasured and used for years to come.
For those of us that have recently lost a loved one, the holidays can be a daunting, awkward and lonely time. This might be your first Christmas celebrating without your loved one, or you are finally at a point where you want to keep your loved one’s memory alive for your growing family. Whatever your situation may be, we have rounded up some suggestions and ideas to light up your loved one’s spirit and memory, and to keep the merry cheer going in your family for years to come.