I don’t remember ever feeling as alive as I did the moment you were placed into my arms. Everything before you – experiencing every first, momentous occasion during my childhood, my first awkward kiss in high school, falling in love (not once, but twice) in college, standing at the church alter in a breathtaking couture gown and marrying your Daddy in front of all of our loved ones, spotlights shining down on me as I stood on countless stages throughout my life in front of hundreds of people – none of it compared to the day you were born, my baby boy. You made me a mother, the greatest role I’ll ever play on life’s stage. And since that day, motherhood has ignited a flame in my soul and has let me truly feel emotions I never knew existed.
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There’s certainly no shortage of “special moments” when you are raising a family with nine children. Those moments have brought laughter, tears, hugs, kisses, regrets, apologies, and my favorite: love. As parents, we just want the best for our children, just like parents of one or two children. However, when you have nine of them, those moments are expanded across nine little human beings, each with their own distinct personalities. If it wasn’t for some of the physical similarities, we’d even think that a couple of them were adopted… surely that one wasn’t from my side of the family!
It is not your fault. It is not always your fault that you are all alone. It is the nature of the beast. It is the way you were raised, it is inherent in you, and sadly, you cannot change it because you are a teenager and you simply don’t have the ability to do so. Your brain is not fully developed, your hormones are raging, and you are angry. I know. And I have failed you. I have failed you because I am so often at a loss as to how to help you. You tell me I don’t understand, and you are right. I was not there for 9 years of your life, 9 of the most formative years of your life. I do not know what you went through, I do not know what happened to you, I do not know how to manage all the feelings and emotions you try so hard to suppress.
Girls. They are everything from sweet to sassy, pure princess to rugged explorer. Preschool girls are the first to throw on a beautiful, pink fluffy party dress, only to head outside and jump in a muddy puddle. Young girls are also the first to develop feelings of inadequacy – with some reporting such feelings as early as 9 and 10 years old. In an effort to keep those feelings at bay and help our preschoolers develop feelings of self-worth well before those formidable years of middle and high school, we created a reading list that includes fun, enjoyable books that will work to foster a high sense of self-worth, self love, power, confidence, acceptance and kindness… as well as develop a love for reading from the very beginning.
It’s swimsuit season, usually a dreaded time for women everywhere, except for the ones whose bodies we ogle over, whose Instagram pictures we stare at until our eyes bleed, and those who make us feel like no matter how many hours we put into the gym or how many calories we count we will never amount to their bikini-goddess-role-modelness. What if this summer though, we learn how to embrace the body we’ve been graciously given, we try instead to become healthier rather than 6 pack toned, we enjoy our family and friends instead of living in the pit of gym-hell, and we tell ourselves a few things before getting into our swimsuit that might actually build us up instead of tear us down.
It’s pretty cliche, but as every mother knows, our children grow up way too fast! Before we know it, they have surpassed crawling to running, cooing to non-stop talking (no, really…what’s silence?), preschool to elementary, and suddenly it’s off to college. Eighteen years goes by in a flash. Thanks to the new digital age, we are able to capture every minute of it on a device that fits into our back pocket (and oh, we do!), but while pictures and videos are precious time pieces to have, they can’t always capture the heart, the endearing and overwhelming amount of love from the mother behind the camera. Pen and paper journal writing offers an in-depth look into one’s soul, a true connection to another being. While it may not be as up-to-date and modern as Instagram, it is time capsule, pass-me down through the generations, and cherish me forever kind of material, and in our book, that’s something worth starting!
We know it by many names: patience, discipline, reserve, restraint. When children exhibit self-control, we often note how well-behaved they are, what good manners they possess, and what great parents they must have. However, in today’s world, with everything available at their fingertips (not to mention sensory overload) and the fact that their peers are constantly downloading, upgrading, and advancing at lightning speed, it’s becoming increasingly harder to teach children that good things come to those who wait. Depending on your child’s age, there are some things you can do to reemphasize the value of patience and ultimately, self-control.
When I learned I was expecting my second child, I took an hour or two to myself before telling my husband. I basked in this secret, letting it trickle through my body. Slowly, it made its way to each and every limb – spreading a tingling sensation – awakening my entire body, and releasing endorphins I hadn’t felt since my early days of college, standing on a stage in front of hundreds of people, exposing my soul in theatrics.