I guess first and foremost, I should give you nice folks a little background into who I am so that my outlook on this subject makes a little more sense. I’m in my mid 30’s (shh…don’t tell anyone). I live in rural Southeast New Mexico, am partnered on a farm and ranch with my father, just started my own welding business, and also work full time at a local peanut mill. I have worked a huge variety of different jobs; I served in the Coast Guard, was an electrician in the oil fields, all the way to being a Sheriff’s Deputy, to a Sergeant at the local Detention Center. Needless to say, I have been accused more than a few times of being a “man’s man.” I love to hunt, fish, ride motorcycles, play guitar, drink a beer, and grill a steak. Do I sound like Tim Allen on Last Man Standing yet? Oh and yes, my political views tend to lean more on the conservative side.
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I don’t know how it happened. It’s cliche but it’s true. It seems like yesterday the nurse placed her in my arms for the first time and boom – I was a mom. Now here we are, nearly five years later, and we are getting ready to send this bright eyed little girl who loves to change her clothes 18748324 times per day to a school, all day, with a uniform. We are taking this tiny being, who just yesterday it seems was a squishy newborn and pushing her out into the real world.
I have all sorts of doubts about this. I’m nervous. I’m excited. I’m worried. I’m scared. Is the world ready for this fierce little girl with a sassy attitude? Is she ready to stand up for herself when people tell her she can’t? Am I ready to take a step back – to let her follow her own path, be her own person, and let her out of this bubble I have created for her?
Thomas Troward was an English author who published several works in the early 20th century that started the “New Thought” movement. His writings, to this day, are still instrumental in sparking human behavioral changes. His quotes show up today in the popular movie “The Secret” and Alcoholics Anonymous still relies on his ideas for inspiration.
Troward is likely most know for stating: “The law of floatation was not discovered by contemplating the sinking of things – but by contemplating the floating of things… and then intelligently asking why they did so.”
In other words, the world, God, the universe, karma, whatever words you use to describe the unseen forces around us all, will ultimately offer you experiences that match what you’re contemplating. Sorry science class, but you will never learn about buoyancy if you are focused on how to sink. Thought works the same way, in that for every experience in your life, where the mind wanders, life goes.
To take this concept even further is that a belief is actually formed ONLY when a thought is repeated over and over and over again. Well that’s all well and good, but what’s this got to do with parenting?
Have you seen a twitter feed recently that proclaimed “The Beauty of the Dad Bod”? Did you have to do a double take? If you have never heard the phrase before – have a little fun and do an image search on Google for “Dad Bod”.
The first thing that comes up will likely be a man who once resembled Jay Gatsby, Howard Hughes, and Romeo. That’s right, Leonardo Decaprio himself put on a couple pounds and now has a paunch. Wherefore art thou Romeo? He went to the bar and had an extra beer and a bowl of pretzels to work on his physique.
That’s right, the current en vogue body, at least for some segment of the population, is one that doesn’t resemble Matthew McConaughey. In fact it probably looks more like…
You’ve been looking forward to this day for the last 9 months. You’ve assembled the crib, painted the nursery, and taken the childbirth classes. Now she’s here. You’re finally holding your new baby girl in your arms. It’s everything you thought it would be, until you get home from the hospital and all of a sudden, your new baby seems to have forgotten about you. She’s constantly nursing and being soothed by Mom. How are you supposed to compete with Mom’s delicious milk? Don’t worry, you can still bond with your new baby! Here are 20 ways to get you and your baby off on the right foot to a long-lasting, loving relationship.
In 2014 dads are more than just providers for their families; they’re true parenting partners. So, today, in honor of Father’s Day, let’s take a moment to thank our kids’ dads for all that they do for them. We, at Daily Mom, would like to wish all the fathers out there a Happy Father’s Day and we’d like to let you into our lives by taking a moment to reflect on our children’s dads.
For the woman who recently gave birth, even the smallest gestures can go a long way to show she has your support. Sometimes, new Dads can feel overwhelmed at the change, and have a hard time distinguishing the true needs and desires of his partner who he just witnessed transform into a Mommy. Read on for our top 5 things that new moms need from their partners.