Days, weeks, and months went by, but these feelings… the feelings of mistrust, betrayal, depression, stress, and fear, and still having to hold it all together while being a “good” mother, seemed impossible. The marriage was fine, everything was good. There were no hang ups, major fights, or even un-attraction issues, and yet it still happened. It happened, and even though life continued on, there was this standstill. No movement forward nor backward. Nothing but the betrayal, the affair – it was the existence of the marriage: The Affair. Life still moved forward, mothering had to be done, so just keep it together, right?
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Parents have a rough job. Not only do they have to keep their kids healthy, fed, clothed, and sheltered they also have to teach them to be good people. If you have more than one child you know that often times some of your greatest tests of patience and use of parenting skills are used when your children are squabbling with one another.
A parent’s first instinct when they hear their children arguing in another room is to run in and help resolve the issue. However, research shows that allowing your children time and space to work out their own compromise is beneficial in many different ways as long as they have been taught the skills. Parents need to play both an active and passive role when it comes to disagreements between siblings – help them work through issues and show conflict resolution, but then step back and let them do it themselves once they have the knowledge base.
“That’s not what I meant!” Ever said that to your wife (or husband) before? Like, have you said that twice today? Even the best intentioned of words sometimes come out sideways in a sentence. Or on Monday’s, they come out in Greek.
Withstanding the test of time for marriages around the world is the phrase: “You are not listening to me!” Which prompts you to think to yourself, “I heard every word that just came out of your mouth AND I can repeat it back to you”. Yet the communication still isn’t in the same zip code of what either person intended.
How can loving family members not hear, or say, what is actually going on behind their ears or mouths?
Sibling rivalry is a common issue that many parents face. Maybe you even grew up fighting with your brothers and sisters…Maybe you even fought a lot. That doesn’t mean it has to be the same for your kids. Let go of stereotypes and learn some ways to help your kids cherish one another.