One of the first things that is traded in upon earning a mommy badge is yourself. Your body changes, your priorities shift, and your time management system has an entirely new category that trumps all others. Although a major part of you will be forever changed, and a new identity discovered, you’ll also quickly realize how important it is to hold onto the friendships that mean so much.
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Have you ever been handed a mommy business card? You probably thought that mom was straight-up crazy. The small, rectangular-shaped card may have served as a poster promotion of “STAY AWAY, I’M CRAZY.”
Only the more you got to know this mom, you realized she wasn’t crazy. And you all of a sudden kind of, sort of, possibly loved the idea of a piece of paper that you could easily slip to a friend to give and get each other’s info. While moms are responsible for the sippy cups, Nuks, stuffies, koosh balls, and random hair barrettes, there simply aren’t enough hands to program someone’s contact info into your phone while your little ones (not-so-patiently) wait next to your waist.
“Seriously, what are you looking at? Who are you talking to?”
“No one. I’m just on Facebook.”
“Facebook, Instagram. You’re always on there. I don’t see what could possibly be so entertaining.”
It’s true. I’m on my phone quite a bit. And in talking to my other mommy friends, so are they. In fact, I can see that they’re active on Facebook right now, or how long they’ve been inactive. I can tell that they were up with the baby at 4am or that it’s dinner time because social media is radio silence. So why are moms on their phones all the time? What exactly is your wife doing as she stares into that bright screen?
Motherhood can be one of the most isolating jobs on the planet. You are never alone – not even to go to the bathroom most days – yet sometimes the weight of loneliness is so heavy you can barely move. Our minds are racing, our bodies are tired, and our hearts are full. Even if you venture off into the “real world” each day, your most important job is a 24/7 gig. And those tiny bosses sticking their hands under the bathroom door are relentless and unforgiving. Sometimes us moms need someone to talk to that understands how we feel and who has been in our shoes. Every mom needs a mom tribe.
What once came second nature as a child, is now one of the hardest things to do as an adult. No longer in need of a friend at the lunch table, we now need friends capable of much bigger duties: holding our child’s hand when we can’t, lending an ear while weighing a difficult decision, or providing a shoulder during a tragic event. Making friends amidst life’s crazy adventures has many adults trying to figure out exactly how to bypass the initial awkwardness to ultimately find that close circle of friends, but as we will soon explain, you should try to embrace it fully and throw yourself out there.
Here at Daily Mom, we travel the globe bringing you the best destination spots and places to stay with your family for the ultimate vacation time. While we love family travel and the memories and experiences that are formed with our children in a new, exciting, and beautiful place, we want to expand our TRAVEL category into more than just family travel spots. Everyone deserves to see the world, from singles to couples to adult groups, so today we’re excited to bring you a destination spot that is the perfect place for a mom’s escape: Dreams Tulum Resort & Spa.
As busy moms, we sometimes don’t carve out enough time for friends and fun, and if we do, it’s usually once in a blue moon. If you’re craving some lady time that is consistent, fun, and “rewarding”, then consider creating a Bunco group with your gals!
Bunco… you mean the game that my grandma plays at her retirement home? Yup, that’s the one! But, believe it or not, it’s a game that has no age prejudice, and is just as fun if you’re 20 or 80. Grandma may or may not bring the booze, but we bet she loves the quality time spent with her friends, the magical feeling of lady luck on her shoulder, and the chance of becoming Bunco Queen complete with a wad of cash in hand as she waddles back to Room #3B.
As a new mom, we’ve all had that awkward moment where we are not sure if we can ask another mom for advice about feeding because we are afraid to start a breast vs. bottle debate.
If you feed your infant formula, breastfeeding moms think you don’t care about the health of your baby. If you are a breastfeeding mom, formula feeding moms think you are an exhibitionist that feels superior to them. A few extremely negative people may hold those opinions. However, the overwhelming majority of moms just do the best they can and spend more time feeling judged themselves rather than actually judging others.