Days, weeks, and months went by, but these feelings… the feelings of mistrust, betrayal, depression, stress, and fear, and still having to hold it all together while being a “good” mother, seemed impossible. The marriage was fine, everything was good. There were no hang ups, major fights, or even un-attraction issues, and yet it still happened. It happened, and even though life continued on, there was this standstill. No movement forward nor backward. Nothing but the betrayal, the affair – it was the existence of the marriage: The Affair. Life still moved forward, mothering had to be done, so just keep it together, right?
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Are you stressed? Is your schedule jam-packed? With today’s busy schedules, more than likely you’re not alone.
One way to deal with a hectic schedule is learning to say “no” to new commitments. Oftentimes we fear that saying “no” will lead to consequences and for some, that is the case, but for others they avoid saying it to deal with guilt, conflict and that notion of “we can do it all”. It’s important to say “no” to accepting new commitments and can be one of the best things to do for yourself and your family. Learning to say “no” can reduce stress and help you realize what you should be focusing on and what’s important to you.
Are you ready to stop feeling overwhelmed and over-committed? Oftentimes we try to be superman and try to commit to as many functions as we can. We want to make people happy, and it’s in our nature to.
Today we discuss 5 ways to stop being over-committed and overwhelmed.
There is no doubt that when you got married, you assumed that you had achieved your fairy-tale and that you and your spouse would live happily ever after. The common misconception is that this so-called fairy-tale doesn’t exist and that marriage takes a lot of work. More work than you could ever have expected.
More often than not, you go into a relationship lacking the necessary tools to deal with and manage any challenges you and your spouse may encounter. There comes a point in the relationship when it becomes necessary to speak with a counselor in order to learn new ways of relating to your partner on many different levels.
When do you know it’s time to consider marriage counseling? Here are some red flags and behaviors that are clear indicators that your marriage needs help.