Creating a positive home for your children is not only beneficial to their development, but it instills qualities like confidence, compassion, patience, and kindness, among others. Home life largely influences a child and shapes them into who they will become, so it’s important to set a positive tone and create an environment where they can flourish. Today, we’re giving you five ways to build a positive home, and how it can benefit your children long-term.
They say it takes a village to raise a child. Or at least that’s what they used to say. Nowadays the mentality is that everyone is to fend for themselves. Parenting in public is seen as a “mind your own business” mentality rather than something where society looks out for the well-being of one another’s children. Sometimes that can leave people in an awkward situation when they see a child that isn’t theirs misbehaving, especially if that child is being unkind to their own child. Do they step in and say something to the misbehaving child? Do they simply remove their child from the situation? Do they mention something to the parents? What if the parents aren’t around? Here are some tips on what you can do if you see a child being rude, disrespectful, mean, or unsafe.
In this era of technological advancement, our children are being raised in a time and place where books are being shelved for good, printing presses have gone out of business, and our 2-year-olds have the ability to work a cell phone (i.e. mini-computer because let’s be honest these aren’t just phones we carry anymore). By the pre-school years the majority of children have at least one electronic device or tablet. In elementary school, not only do the students all own personal devices of some sort, most of the schools are feeling it necessary to keep up with the technology trend providing one-to-one tech, meaning they have enough computers, iPads, or tablets to cover every student in their school. And finally, by middle school, virtually every student has a cellphone (i.e. mini-computer), tablet, game system, or laptop computer.
Whether you had an “oopsy” or methodically, thought out, well-planned pregnancy, your bundle of joy, snuggled in your womb is just waiting to be born. Your anticipation of the excitement, joys, scary ‘what if’ moments, and the over flowing emotions of love are ready and eager to pour out all over this child. Well… that is until just a few years later as their personality really is developing – it comes out… just like that water balloon that was filled just a wee bit too much. Next thing you know… POP! As clear as day, the voice of your mother fills your ears… just you wait till you have your own! They’ll turn out just like you. And she was right.
As my husband carried our sleeping 5-year-old son up the stairs and into his bedroom from the car late last night, I breathed a motherly sigh of relief. He had just returned home from his first fishing and camping trip with his daddy and his uncles. While I trusted those three men full-heartedly with the safety and well-being of our little boy, I have to admit, I was a nervous wreck all weekend thinking about all of the things that could go wrong in that state park, 4 hours away from home in a remote area with little to no cell phone coverage. But they brought my baby home, safe and sound, freshly bathed and in his footed fleece dinosaur pajamas, surely dreaming of the campfire stories that were told, the marshmallows they roasted and the rainbow trout he caught and reeled in all by himself. I could rest easy that night. My child was back in the safety of his home, his memory bank as full as my jittery heart.
He bounced right out of bed early this morning, eager to tell me stories about his weekend adventures as he got ready for the start of a new week at school. I groggily sat down next to him on the couch, coffee in hand, and turned the TV on to catch bits and pieces of the news through his animated stories.
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There are things in this world that we moms cling to for our sanity. Each one of us has something different that allows us to escape the realities of poopy diapers, fights over the same Barbie shoe, and children who think sleep is the actual devil. But there are certain things that are universal to all moms, things that we can all relate to, knowingly nodding our heads yes as we remember that time when our child also threw an epic temper tantrum in the pillow aisle of Target. They are things that we see, do, and keep close to ourselves because they are what makes us feel like more than “mom” or simply allow us to let our minds rests for five seconds. And like our real-life BFFs, these non-human BFFs listen to our venting, take our minds off the piles of laundry and dishes, and make us feel like actual people.
From the moment our babies leave the womb we start documenting their milestones. The first smile, the first belly laugh, and the first time they sit up, along with crawling, walking, and potty training… you name it, and whether it’s baby #1 or #4, parents around the world love to celebrate their baby’s accomplishments even more so than their own.
Today, many families are burdened with confusing their best intentions to give kids all that they want with what they need. Nice cars, the newest gaming systems, the best clothes, the newest electronics – all to help keep their kid “with the times”. But do our kids really need all of this? Are these necessities, or are they taking over our lives, deepening our debt, and adding to our stress level? The saying goes, “we were born with nothing and we will die with nothing,” so, what is the point of overworking ourselves to provide every possible thing to our kids? What happened to kids working for what they wanted? Why do parents feel the need to stress over providing the biggest and best, when really the moderately priced off brand works exactly the same? Why can’t parents say no?
We spend a lot of time encouraging our children to do well in school, make good grades, study hard, and to prepare for the future. But sometimes we forget that the most important lesson for our children is to teach them to be good humans. The most important lesson we can teach them is to be kind. We hear the horrific stories of bullying and the sad consequences. We spend a lot of time talking about teaching middle schoolers and high schoolers not to bully, when bullying is at its forefront. Perhaps, we should spend more time at home when our children are young, teaching and showing them how to be kind from the very beginning.
The drive for technology, ease of use, and endless entertainment possibilities have vigorously overtaken the once simple-to-use device: the telephone. Not only has it gone cordless, it has become one of America’s most necessary devices to stay in touch with life, family, business and… entertainment. Now this technology falls into the hands of our younger counter parts, accessing the many worlds beyond their front door – right in the palm of their hands.
In a fast-paced world of schedules, activities, and commitments, it is often challenging to force a slowdown and reset. It is all too easy to get focused on the to-do lists and errand running, or get swept up in job requirements and friend commitments, that the ones who mean the most to us sometimes get put on the backburner. In order to make the necessary time for those most loved people in life, it is important to remember why you want to spend time with that person and make the time. Here is how!
If your child is elite enough to play at the college level, you may be wondering what is the next step. Did you know that the average high school coach contacts fewer than five college coaches? That’s right – It is the athlete’s burden to contact college coaches. Navigating the world of athletic college recruitment can feel overwhelming. Here are 8 tips to help manage the process.
When we think of chess, many of us picture old men in the park sitting at tables in the shade playing a game of old. What we don’t necessarily consider is how that game can benefit the daily life of our children. Chess is a strategic skill game that allows our children to develop a multitude of highly sought after skills, can be taught from an early age, and will allow your child to excel both in the classroom and in the real world. Chess opens up a dialogue between young and old, it is a language in and of itself that allows those who can play to find common ground no matter the age or native language of the player. This game is played worldwide amongst avid opponents from across the globe.
For many parents, there is nothing quite like snuggling up with your children and a good book and traveling off into an imaginary world of awe and wonder. Reading to our children not only fosters a love of reading, but it has been proven to give children a higher aptitude for learning in general. Sometimes, however, children can develop reading disabilities that rob them of the joy of reading they once had, and if the markers of their struggle to read go unnoticed, the child is at risk of falling far behind. Being able to recognize the signs of reading deficiencies early can make a huge difference by getting your child the help they need. Because early intervention is key to a child’s success in overcoming such difficulties, we have listed for you some of the most common signs of a child’s struggle to read.
Grieving is a challenging process. One of the many difficulties in the grieving process is the fear of forgetting a loved one. As a parent, this fear may be intensified because you may worry that your child will forget the precious few memories your child had with a loved one. Alternatively, you may grieve that your loved one never met your child. Reconciling the past and present has its obstacles, but as stated by Allison Gilbert, “[w]e can all live our fullest lives when we accept that absence and presence can coexist.” Here are some ways to remember and celebrate your loved one with your child.