… also known as a 5 step guide to get your husband to do laundry.
Men around the globe have a confession to make – we love to do the laundry. Yes, its true! In particular, there is one person at home who looks for things that might be dirty to put in the washing machine. He heat-seeks clean clothes to fold and irons dress shirts like its going out of style.
The times that Dad is intently focused on onesies and v-neck t-shirts may seem random to you, but there is a method to the madness. The madness is internally well timed and likely includes a benevolent line like “No baby it’s ok, you can make dinner – just leave the clothes to me. “
Dad’s also have a private confession to make, you just wont ever hear it aloud as it would ruin the secret. The confession would go something like this: When I tell you I love to do laundry, its actually Dad-speak for leave me alone let me drink beer and watch football.
Ok well its not always football sometimes its soccer, frequently its Game of Thrones re-runs and once every millennium its (yawwwn) baseball. Most dads love to watch sports, and while others have a favorite show on Netflix, we all have a stash of favorites secretly being recorded on the DVR.
This is key knowledge for any moms out there reading this. On top of that, know that all men have a secret I want to watch this list – even if it’s subconscious.
If the active laundry guy is not yet your reality, its ok, hes there just waiting to be unearthed. Here are 5 easy steps to making sure you never have to fold another pair of delicates ever again.
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1. Determine his values
Perhaps the most tricky step is the first one, but once you get the ball rolling, its all proverbially downhill! The key here is to determine exactly what Dads core values are. If you have never done a values search for yourself, or your partner in this case, its recommended for any relationship as it helps communication.
Some dads are easy to determine values family, adventure, optimal human expression, health, politics, travel, competition, business opportunities, wealth, time freedom and social are all common male values. Perhaps you can pick a top 3 or 4 off here right away. In the event its not apparent, try this Demartini Value Determination. The process is very easy, free, and worth the 30 minutes.
More on how to use this knowledge in a bit, but this is a crucial step, so dont skip it Moms!
2. Speak his language
Once you know what his values are, find the one that he can multitask with. For instance, the dad who has a high value on entrepreneurship may not watch a lot of TV. Here is where you find a niche show like Shark Tank or The Profit.
Once Dad is hooked on Mark Cubans business acumen its all but guaranteed that he will want to watch more.
For the dad thats nature-centric, consider BBC-USA, or Animal Planet and their plethora of 4 legged, furry and feathered shows. Got an analytical guy or an engineer? There are the analytic shows such as Myth Busters, Modern Marvels, How Its Made or almost anything on PBS such as NOVA.
You get the idea. Try and hook Dad on a series.
3. Enroll him in a program of choice
The challenge will be for moms to NOT jump the gun and say, Hey, how about watching Game of Thrones and folding laundry? Despite Dads frequent caveman-like sounds, hes smarter than you think. The key here is something like, Hey honey, how about I watch one of your shows for a change?
No Momma Bear, the if I do this for you, will you do this for me? will NOT cut it. Keep in mind, you are just getting interested in his interests even if its slightly misleading.
Some dads are really easy and love all sports time to check the ego. Now, its time to sit and watch a game or two with him. As painful as that might be, you must do this.
4. NOW enroll him in YOUR vision
Once Dad is hooked, and perhaps he didnt need the hook and you didnt need steps 1 through 3. Say its October and football season is in prime form and his team is on the road to the Super Bowl. Well then, you can skip right to this step.
Here is what happens: While you are watching his show of choice you casually bring out the laundry to fold for yourself. You might start by asking him about a t-shirt here and there to gauge his interest. As you are folding, he might just jump in. Great, hes in!
If that doesnt work, it’s okay. Let it go for now, because there are 2 choices from here.
- Tell him you have another load upstairs that needs folding, and ask him if he will help you while you watch another half/episode or whatever.
- Wait until next time and now you can bring the How about we fold laundry together and watch xyz show?
5. Give it momentum
This seems like a crappy exercise up to this point if you have watched three football games or can no longer stand the sight of the Queen of Dragons taking over another city. Yet there is hope. This is also where beer (or snacks) often can come in handy.
If you are folding laundry with your husband, ask him if you can make him some snacks and get him a beer while he is waiting for the artichoke dip. Just let him know you will be back in 10 minutes but do remind him to keep folding the clothes.
If Dad is already doing the clothes solo, reward him with a beer, soda or his favorite Bean and Quesadilla dip. A hungry Poppa with no sustenance will no longer be as willing to participate.
Note: Best to avoid children around Dad. Children are a distraction and are likely to take attention away from the task at hand. And yes, most children love to destroy neat piles.
Once the male of the species understands what you have done, he will likely thank you for the time he gets to himself and the belly filling goods that come with it. There are also reports surfacing that indicate some Dads will invite other men over to watch football while he irons your favorite pair of slacks.