Today, many families are burdened with confusing their best intentions to give kids all that they want with what they need. Nice cars, the newest gaming systems, the best clothes, the newest electronics – all to help keep their kid “with the times”. But do our kids really need all of this? Are these necessities, or are they taking over our lives, deepening our debt, and adding to our stress level? The saying goes, “we were born with nothing and we will die with nothing,” so, what is the point of overworking ourselves to provide every possible thing to our kids? What happened to kids working for what they wanted? Why do parents feel the need to stress over providing the biggest and best, when really the moderately priced off brand works exactly the same? Why can’t parents say no?
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I love being a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM). I really do. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely have my struggles with it and it presents its own unique stresses and issues. But, when it comes down to the nitty gritty, it really does float my boat. However, this post isn’t about the joys of being a SAHM. It’s about the tongue-in-cheek woes of being a SAHM with a work-from-home-husband (WFHH).
Finding a fitness program that fits your lifestyle – and one that will last beyond the 7 weeks, 21-days, or 12 week programs out there – can be difficult. Even just trying to workout on your own when you find the time, while trying to follow a path can be overwhelming and leave you simply feeling lost. Understanding some basic ground rules to working out, can help take the stress away and lead you to creating a program that works for you; a program that that is sustainable and will get you excited to complete every day.
The research is clear pertaining to the many benefits of exercise. Yet, as moms, we tend to push off the need for exercise – or basically anything that involves ourselves. We make excuses – no time, too tired, we don’t know how, we can’t afford it – you name it, we’ve said it. But the truth is, excuses are just excuses – they don’t make us better, they don’t make us stronger – the only way to get better is to work harder, work better, and try harder. The excuses for exercise become our excuses for life; if we continue to not put ourselves first, we will fall into a habitual routine of never taking care of ourselves. It’s more than just exercise, it’s who we are – if we are truly important to ourselves, we’d make time for us, to be the person we want to be.
Have you ever been handed a mommy business card? You probably thought that mom was straight-up crazy. The small, rectangular-shaped card may have served as a poster promotion of “STAY AWAY, I’M CRAZY.”
Only the more you got to know this mom, you realized she wasn’t crazy. And you all of a sudden kind of, sort of, possibly loved the idea of a piece of paper that you could easily slip to a friend to give and get each other’s info. While moms are responsible for the sippy cups, Nuks, stuffies, koosh balls, and random hair barrettes, there simply aren’t enough hands to program someone’s contact info into your phone while your little ones (not-so-patiently) wait next to your waist.
The benefits of homework are debatable. The National Parent Teacher Association recommends 10 minutes per night for first graders, then adding 10 minutes per grade level for each succeeding year. High schoolers taking advanced or college classes may have more. Homework amounts vary per teacher and per school. And sadly, many teachers and schools do not follow the recommended guidelines put forth by the PTA; instead, even kindergartners are spending 20+ minutes a night on homework.
It seems like more and more moms are bombarded with perfection. The need to portray this picture perfect life – partly it’s our own fault – unfollow, unplug, delete social media – but yet we cannot. For one reason or another we love social media too much to get rid of it. It does serve a purpose – it allows us to connect to those we love, share memories, pictures, and videos across the miles. But it also can bring us down. Don’t hate the player, hate the game. Right?
Education is the most important tool we can use to change the world around us. In today’s world, science plays a huge part in the future of the world. The sad part is that not all schools promote science in early education. That is why parents should help to bridge the gap and educate our children on the vast world of science. Young children learn by hands-on activities and by naturally exploring their world. Experimentation can help foster their learning. Below is a simple pH experiment to help get things rolling.
Water is all around us. It affects every facet of our lives. We need water for survival; 80% of our bodies are made of water. But where does water come from? The warming of spring and summer provides the perfect time to get out and explore the water around us. While we are enjoying the lazy days on the lake or the rushing waves of the ocean, stop to take a few minutes to educate your little one on the importance of water and where it comes from.
It’s no secret that children often learn by our interactions with them. We may think that cuddling, singing, and playing with our babies are just simple bonding activities, but they are so much more than that. Many studies show that the more we talk to our babies, the more they learn. Communicating with your child is pivotal for his/her growth and development. One of the best ways to promote aural learning is to simply read to your child.
So, while it may seem silly to walk around Target humming songs, pointing out colors, or simply reading to an infant with no verbal communication skills of their own – do it. Babies learn about speech, language, and reading skills long before they actually begin to speak and read on their own.
“Seriously, what are you looking at? Who are you talking to?”
“No one. I’m just on Facebook.”
“Facebook, Instagram. You’re always on there. I don’t see what could possibly be so entertaining.”
It’s true. I’m on my phone quite a bit. And in talking to my other mommy friends, so are they. In fact, I can see that they’re active on Facebook right now, or how long they’ve been inactive. I can tell that they were up with the baby at 4am or that it’s dinner time because social media is radio silence. So why are moms on their phones all the time? What exactly is your wife doing as she stares into that bright screen?
Motherhood is busy, making it hard to find time to bathe, eat lunch, or brush your teeth. Sometimes the possibility of working out crosses our minds, but then it quickly retreats with each cry for Momma. However, we’ve got to take care of ourselves. What if there were a workout that could help you both emotionally and physically, all while stimulating and socializing your baby? Stroller Strides is the answer.
Children are naturally curious. They find wild delight in tiny ants crossing the sidewalk, they take pleasure in pulling out all the contents in your kitchen cabinets, and they love sticking their hands into gooey mud and rubbing it all over themselves and the dog. Children want to learn and explore the world around them – and it is our job to foster this creativity by encouraging them to think critically about the how’s and why’s of the world. It is your job to enlighten them in the world of science.
My Darling Children,
I do not consider myself a political scholar, or even possessing extensive political knowledge. I cannot relate to all the woes of the world – because I am only one person. I only know what it is like to be me – a white woman in trying times. Times that will test us, bring us to our knees. I cannot speak for the minorities or the masses. I can only speak for myself – and as your mother – I must speak up for your future.
It is no surprise to most that breastfeeding is beneficial to both baby and mother. But many are not aware of exactly how breastfeeding can improve the health and cognitive abilities of mothers and babies, especially when nursing is extended to at least one year of age. Dr. Rachel Borton, the director of Bradley University’s Family Nurse Practitioner program, has conducted extensive studies in the benefits of increasing the length of time women are advised to breastfeed. She is currently working to educate other doctors, mothers, and the community as to why extended breastfeeding is so important and to remove the social stigma against nursing, especially in public.